When the Money Goes

" When the money goes, will the honey stay, will the gray clouds replace the sunny days?"

I could beat around the bush, but it is typically not my style. 
So, in a nutshell, the answer to the above question, is  yes. 

Love is an emotion and an action, it is about being shown you are loved, being told, and being secure in that.  It is a wonderful feeling that can be tainted by bad behaviour and unfortunate circumstances. 
Love is definitely affected by the outside world, as you cannot love someone in a box. 
Love is affected by faithfulness,  affection, attention, communication, trust...I could go on... but it is extremely rooted in stability...

Men tend to want the stablility of not being left, of a woman standing beside him through anything life throws their way.  Women tend to want the stability of being cared for and protected.  Such different expectations of a relationship, often lead to different expectations in those roots of love.  And when a man goes from being a provider to a boarder...it changes things. 

Money is a commodity, it is a bartering tool.  The more money you have, the more power you have in the world of goods and services.  We need some of these goods and services to live...food, water, shelther, clothes...and some of those goods and services are expendable, but maintain a level of comfort, luxury, or stability.  For example, if monthly you pay to get your lawn manicured, go to the spa, for a fitness membership, a maid every two weeks, and a babysitter on your monthly date night...and suddenly you don't have the means to do those things, it is going to put a small stress on your relationship.  Expand that to not being able to pay the utilities, bigger strain...the mortgage, even bigger...food, a nightmare.  Will the love still be good, probably not.  A man that is unable, at his most meager, to help keep a roof over my head and food in the refrigerator is not adding, but subtracting from my life.  What love has he earned?  What honey would stay?

I would never simply leave someone because he has fallen on bad times, as I would not want anyone to treat me the same.  However, it is one thing to be having a bad moment, and another to be displaying a lack of motivation and a basic understanding of necessities.  As wonderful as love is, it is does pay for anything, it cannot be given to the gas man when he comes to turn off the meter, as a promissory note. 

Make sure you find yourself, a hustler...not in the street sense of the term, but a man who is going to provide, no matter what...if he has to sell lemons on the side of the street, put up a tent and draw pictures at the local fair, or stick out a little leg (I am kidding)...he is going to make sure that you are taken care of, and that the honey stays. 

Song of the Day:  Upgrade You by Beyonce